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Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. He is the Praiseworthy, the Good, and the Beautiful. I bear witness that there is no god but God, alone, with no partner. He says the truth and He is the Guide. I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. Peace and blessings be upon him and his family and companions, and those who follow them in good faith until the Day of Judgment.
The Fourth Advice: Al-Iffah
This is the fourth advice. And this advice, God willing, is Al-Iffah, to be just. Al-Iffah, my beloved brothers and sisters, is the slogan of the righteous. And the clothes of the righteous. And the crown of the fearful. Al-Iffah, to be just, is a quality you will find in the righteous people. It is what they adorn themselves with. It is what they clothe themselves with. It is their crown that they carry on their heads. It is the beauty that glows from them. Just. They are not ones who are overcome by their desires. They are in control of it.
Ibn Al-Qayyim says, Al-Iffah, to be just, تحمله صاحبها Having that quality of being just, it will take a person to على اجتناب الرذائل The person will stay away from the low things. To stay away from speech and actions which are despicable. And it will push the person towards shyness. Every good that you see, it springs from shyness. And it prevents him shyness then. From what? Zina. Stinginess. Lying. Backbiting. Tailbearing.
A Caution to the Youth
ايها شاب My young brother and my young sister. Be cautious. أن تسول له نفسه العبث بأغراض المسلمين Stay away from. Be cautious of your nafs beautifying for you the honour of other people. Whether it be their honour by slandering them. Name calling them. Or fulfilling your sexual needs with them and their daughters.
The poet he said عفو تعفو نساؤكم في المحرم The poet he said تعفو نساؤكم في المحرم وتجنبوا ما لا يليق بمسلم إن الزنا دين فإن أقرضته كان الوفاء من أهل بيتك فاعلم Allahu Akbar This action of Zina is a جرم فضيع وفعل شنيع It's an evil action a person does. What you need to remember that if you fulfill your sexual needs with other women It's not long before it's done to your family members.
عفو تعفو نساؤكم في المحرم وتجنبوا ما لا يليق بمسلم Stay away from Zina and Haram إن الزنا دين Zina is a debt فإن أقرضته If you give it back كان الوفاء من أهل بيتك فعلم It's a debt If you give Zina with another woman كان الوفاء من أهل بيتك فعلم It's going to be taken from your family members.
The Story of the Young Boy
نعم أبي أمامة رضي الله عنه He mentioned إن فتى شاباً أتى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم A young boy came to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم And this young boy said يا رسول الله إذن لي بالزنا O Messenger of Allah Allow me to commit Zina He was a youth His desire was burning him inside فأقبل القوم عليه فزجروه The people saw what kind of request he put forward They became angry with his behavior And they scolded him وقالوا مه مه The Prophet then said to him ادنو Come close فدنا منه قريب And the boy came so close to the Prophet.
The Prophet then said to him أتحبه لأمك Do you love Zina for your mother? قال لا والذي He said قال لا No والله جعلني الله فداك I do not like this for my mother. The Prophet then said وَلَا النَّاسُ يُحِبُونَهُ لِأُمَّهَتِهِمْ And other people do not like that for their mothers أتحبه لابنتك Do you love it for your daughter For someone to commit Zina with her قال لا والله يا رسول الله جعلني الله فداك He said no Messenger of Allah وَلَا النَّاسُ يُحِبُونَهُ لِبَنَاتِهِمْ And people do not like that for their daughters.
Then the Prophet said أتحبه لأختك Do you love this for your sister And then he said لا والله No by Allah I swear جعلني الله فداك Then the Prophet said وَلَا النَّاسُ يُحِبُونَهُ لِأَخَوَاتِهِمْ No one loves it for their sister. Then the Prophet said أَفَتُحِبُهُ لِعَمَّتِكَ Do you like it for your maternal auntie He said لا والله جعلني الله فداك By Allah I swear I do not like it for my auntie.
Then the Prophet said to him وَلَا النَّاسُ يُحِبُونَهُ لِعَمَّتِهِمْ People do not like it for their maternal auntie أَفَتُحِبُهُ لِخَالَتِكَ Do you like it for your paternal auntie Your auntie is your maternal auntie Do you love it Now he is asking The one before was your paternal auntie Now he is asking his maternal auntie أَفَتُحِبُهُ لِخَالَتِكَ Do you love this for your maternal auntie He said لا والله جعلني الله فداك He said وَلَا النَّاسُ يُحِبُونَهُ لِخَالَتِهِمْ.
Then look what the Prophet did He rationally convinced him. Then the Prophet then said فَوَضَعَ يَدَهُ عَلَيْهِ Prophet placed his hand on the boy's chest And then he said to him اللهم اغفر ذنبه وطهر قلبه وحسن فرجه He said Oh Allah forgive him for his sins Oh Allah purify his heart And Oh Allah protect his private part. The narration mentions فَلَمْ يَكُن بَعْدُ From that day onwards That young boy ذاك الفتاة He was not one يلتفت إلى شيء He would never look at anything.
The Lessons from the Hadith
So this hadith shows us number one Our Prophet's gentleness How he realized what this young boy is Burning inside him The desire that is burning him The Prophet understood it And the way that he dealt with him Convinced him logically Rationally convinced him. It shows us in our religion Islam is not a religion that Does not allow rational convincing As long as it doesn't Go against the Qur'an and Sunnah.
And the truth of the matter is There is never going to be A logical argument A real correct logical argument That would go against the evidences Of the Qur'an and the Sunnah. So if your logical argument Is going against a clear cut text It is an illogical absurdity What you are uttering Not a rational argument Okay. And that is what we are against.
Anyways the Prophet Convinced him And not only did he convince him But he supplicated He invoked Allah Asked Allah to clear his heart To remove this from him To protect his private parts for him And he also asked Allah To forgive him for his sins.
The Current State of Youth
Brothers and sisters Our youth today The concept of Zina is Muntashir It's been norms He will talk about it He won't even hide it The girl will talk about it The boy will talk about it No one is worried about it Zina is normal now If you don't commit Zina Is when people are shocked Oh you are a virgin And they will laugh at you.
The Prophet Peace be upon him Allah will misguide them On the day when there is no misguidance Except the misguidance of the righteous Imam And a young man who was raised in worship of his Lord And a man whose heart is attached to the mosque And two men who love each other In Allah He gathered for him and separated for him And a man who was asked by a woman Who has a position and beauty He said, I fear Allah, the Lord of the worlds.
And a man who has given charity And a man who is hidden So that his left does not know what his right does And a man who remembers Allah With his eyes open. This hadith mentions to us The seven that will be given a shade The day when there is no shade The first one, the Prophet The just leader And a young man who was raised in worship of his Lord A youth who was nurtured And grew up in the worship of Allah.
And a man whose heart is attached to the mosque Is actually connected to the mosque. It is tied to the mosque All the time you find him Going either back from the mosque or going towards the mosque. Two men or two women Who have come together In the love of Allah And that is what brings them together And that is what they depart on.
The Challenge of Resisting Temptation
وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَانُ طَلَبَتْهُمْ رَأَةٌ ذَاتُ مَنصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَانٌ تَصَدَّقَ أَخْفَى A man of beauty and position Everybody wants this woman That type of woman And she is beautiful And the only reason why he withheld From committing zina And she is calling him And the reason why he is holding back from her Is what? He is holding back from her because إِنِّي أَخَافُ اللَّهُ I am scared of Allah.
وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَانٌ تَصَدَّقَ أَخْفَى A man who gave sadaqa He concealed it That his left hand doesn't know What his right hand gave حَتَّى لَا تَعْلَمُ شِمَالُهُ مَا تُوفِقُ يَمِينُهُ That his left hand doesn't know what his right hand is giving.
وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَانٌ ذَكَرَ اللَّهُ خَالِيًا He remembers Allah private, no one is there Just be him and Allah Privately somewhere فَفَضَتْ عَيْنَا The point The one I want to get from the hadith is وَرَجُلٌ طَلَبَتْهُمْ رَأَةٌ A man who was called by a woman ذَاتُ مَنصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ This woman is beautiful Attractive And she has a status And he said to her إِنِّي أَخَافُ اللَّهُ I am scared of Allah.
Let's really think here Who will do that today Who will say to a woman Of beauty Of position I fear Allah I can't do anything with you I can't Even if he did do it And he went And he told his friends What will they say to him The kind of people he is around They will laugh at him Are you crazy? Are you serious? They will make a joke out of it They will laugh at him This is the reality that we live in And this is what our youths are going through.
Ibn Al Qayyim used to say الصبر على الشهوة أسهل من الصبر على ما توجبه الشهوة على ما توجبه الشهوة Remember this To be patient على الشهوة Remember this To be patient And restrain yourself And restrain yourself To withhold To refrain from Fulfilling your desires Is more easier Than Having to deal with the outcome Of fulfilling your desires.
The patience that is required for that Brother goes Commits Zina For what? A few hours? A few minutes? And he is over and done with The consequences Of what he has just done right now The patience he has to endure Is far worse Far greater than the patience You could have just come with by Refraining and holding yourself And keeping away from all of this.
Maybe the woman becomes pregnant Maybe you get a sickness Or an illness from it Maybe your reputation and your name Maybe what happens Because what you have just done right now Is going to be done to your family member Your daughter Or your sister Or your this and that.
The Example of Prophet Yusuf
Okay? Remember the story of Prophet Yusuf Yusuf, he is what? When it comes to being trust He is given as an example Wallahi he is talking to Allah Look at this Iffah, look how trusty Yusuf is He said Rabbi my lord As-Sijnal prison is what? Ahabbu ilayya is more beloved to me Mimma yad'unani ilayya That which they are calling me to.
And look what he says after that Wallahi if you don't divert me from all of this The plotting and the planning That these women are putting for me If you don't divert me I'm going to fall into this And I'm going to be from the ignorant people. Sayyidina Yusuf What did he give precedence to? What did he choose? He chose the suffering On this earth Than the punishment of the hereafter.
He knew he can't do without Allah's help He turned towards his lord He said I haven't got the strength If you don't turn me away from all of this Oh my lord I'm going to go head in And I'm going to be from the ignorant criminals. When he humbled himself to Allah And he admitted that he is in Allah's hands Allah said sorry Allah accepted his dua Allah diverted him From their planning and their plotting Allah is the one who hears your supplication Allah is the one who hears your calling He is also one who has great knowledge.
The Modern Challenges
Compare this to There is no way to compare To what? Our youths They are playing on the honour of so many sisters They don't care With their phones On the internet, Facebook Twitter Instagram Snapchat And now The mother of all Fasad has come The new app Tik Tok. Using all of that The Fasad Open There it is The sisters are on there The boys are on there Hunting the sisters down Speaking to this woman And then this woman again Cheating with this one.
All of it started from where? Where did all of this problem come from? It came from the looking You are looking at the post The poet he said The beginning of all of this Is what? Looking That's where it all started from. And the poet he said And the majority of the people Who are going to the hellfire are going to what? It's the evil they belittle.
The poet he also said Regarding this issue You are running after this woman And after that moment Where you have done the haram You are not feeling the way that you felt You feel regret now And sadness Emotional. Leave these Places of Fasad If this is what it's doing to you Remember Allah and leave Supplicate to Allah And beg him for forgiveness.
Anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me and shaytan And Allah and his messenger are both free from it.
