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Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. He is the Praiseworthy, the Good, and the Beautiful. I bear witness that there is no god but God, alone, with no partner. He says the truth and He is the Guide. I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. Peace and blessings be upon him and his family and companions, and those who follow them in good faith until the Day of Judgment.

The Fourth Advice: Al-‘Iffah

This is the fourth advice. And this advice, God willing, is Al-‘Iffah — to be just. Al-‘Iffah, my beloved brothers and sisters, is the slogan of the righteous. And the clothes of the righteous. And the crown of the fearful. Al-‘Iffah — to be just — is a quality you will find in the righteous people. It is what they adorn themselves with. It is what they clothe themselves with. It is their crown that they carry on their heads. It is the beauty that glows from them. Just. They are not ones who are overcome by their desires. They are in control of it.

Ibn Al-Qayyim says, Al-‘Iffah, to be just, تحمله صاحبها — having that quality of being just, it will take a person to على اجتناب الرذائل — the person will stay away from the low things. To stay away from speech and actions which are despicable. And it will push the person towards shyness. Every good that you see, it springs from shyness. And it prevents him — shyness then — from what? Zina. Stinginess. Lying. Backbiting. Tailbearing.

A Caution to the Youth

أيها شاب — My young brother and my young sister. Be cautious. أن تسول له نفسه العبث بأغراض المسلمين — stay away from, be cautious of your nafs beautifying for you the honour of other people. Whether it be their honour by slandering them. Name calling them. Or fulfilling your sexual needs with them and their daughters.

The poet he said:

عفوا تعف نساؤكم في المحرم وتجنبوا ما لا يليق بمسلم إن الزنا دين، فإن أقرضته كان الوفاء من أهل بيتك فاعلم

Allahu Akbar. This action of Zina is a جُرم فظيع وفعل شنيع — it's an evil action a person does. What you need to remember is that if you fulfill your sexual needs with other women, it's not long before it’s done to your family members.

عفوا تعف نساؤكم في المحرم وتجنبوا ما لا يليق بمسلم Stay away from Zina and Haram. إن الزنا دين — Zina is a debt. فإن أقرضته — If you give it, كان الوفاء من أهل بيتك فاعلم — it's going to be paid back through your family.

The Story of the Young Boy

نعم. أبي أمامة رضي الله عنه — he mentioned:

إن فتى شاباً أتى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم — a young boy came to the Prophet ﷺ, and this young boy said: يا رسول الله، ائذن لي بالزنا — O Messenger of Allah, allow me to commit Zina.

He was a youth. His desire was burning him inside.

فأقبل القوم عليه فزجروه — the people saw what kind of request he put forward. They became angry with his behaviour and they scolded him. وقالوا: مه مه — The Prophet then said to him: ادنُ — come close. فدنا منه قريب — and the boy came so close to the Prophet.

Then the Prophet ﷺ said to him:

The Prophet said: ولا الناس يحبونه لأمهاتهم — and other people don’t love that for their mothers.

قال: لا، والله، جعلني الله فداك — He said: No, by Allah. May Allah make me a ransom for you.

أتحبه لأمك؟ — Do you love Zina for your mother?

Then he asked:

The Prophet said: ولا الناس يحبونه لبناتهم — and people don’t love that for their daughters.

قال: لا والله يا رسول الله، جعلني الله فداك — No, O Messenger of Allah.

أتحبه لابنتك؟ — Do you love it for your daughter?

Then he asked:

The Prophet said: ولا الناس يحبونه لأخواتهم

قال: لا والله، جعلني الله فداك

أتحبه لأختك؟ — Do you love this for your sister?

Then he asked:

The Prophet said: ولا الناس يحبونه لعماتهم

قال: لا والله، جعلني الله فداك

أفتُحبّه لعمتك؟ — Do you like it for your paternal aunt?

Then he asked:

The Prophet said: ولا الناس يحبونه لخالاتهم

قال: لا والله، جعلني الله فداك

أتحبه لخالتك؟ — Do you love it for your maternal aunt?

Then look what the Prophet did — he rationally convinced him. Then the Prophet ﷺ placed his hand on the boy’s chest and said:

اللهم اغفر ذنبه، وطهر قلبه، وحصن فرجه O Allah, forgive his sins. O Allah, purify his heart. O Allah, protect his private parts.

The narration mentions:

فلم يكن بعد — from that day onwards, ذاك الفتى — that young boy لا يلتفت إلى شيء — he would never look at anything (haram).

The Lessons from the Hadith

So this hadith shows us, number one, our Prophet's gentleness — how he realized what this young boy is burning inside him, the desire that is burning him. The Prophet understood it. And the way that he dealt with him — convinced him logically. Rationally convinced him.

It shows us, in our religion, Islam is not a religion that does not allow rational convincing — as long as it doesn’t go against the Qur’an and Sunnah.

And the truth of the matter is, there is never going to be a logical argument — a real, correct logical argument — that would go against the evidences of the Qur’an and the Sunnah. So if your logical argument is going against a clear-cut text, it is an illogical absurdity what you are uttering — not a rational argument. Okay. And that is what we are against.

Anyways, the Prophet convinced him. And not only did he convince him, but he supplicated. He invoked Allah. Asked Allah to clear his heart, to remove this from him, to protect his private parts for him. And he also asked Allah to forgive him for his sins.

The Current State of Youth

Brothers and sisters, our youth today — the concept of Zina is muntashir. It’s been norms. He will talk about it. He won’t even hide it. The girl will talk about it. The boy will talk about it. No one is worried about it. Zina is normal now. If you don’t commit Zina is when people are shocked: “Oh, you are a virgin?” And they will laugh at you.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

Allah will shade seven under His shade on a day when there is no shade but His shade:

A man who remembers Allah in private, and his eyes overflow with tears.

A man who gives in charity and conceals it — so much so that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given.

A man who is tempted by a woman of beauty and position and he says, “I fear Allah, the Lord of the worlds.”

Two men who love each other for the sake of Allah — they gather for His sake and separate for His sake.

A man whose heart is attached to the mosque.

A young man who was raised in the worship of his Lord.

A just ruler.

This hadith mentions to us the seven that will be given a shade the day when there is no shade.

The first one, the Prophet said: the just leader.

And a young man who was raised in worship of his Lord — a youth who was nurtured and grew up in the worship of Allah.

And a man whose heart is attached to the mosque — is actually connected to the mosque. It is tied to the mosque. All the time, you find him going either back from the mosque or going towards the mosque.

Two men or two women who have come together in the love of Allah — and that is what brings them together, and that is what they depart on.

The Challenge of Resisting Temptation

وَرَجُلٌ طَلَبَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ ذَاتُ مَنْصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ A man who is called by a woman of status and beauty...

Everybody wants this woman — that type of woman. And she is beautiful. And the only reason why he withheld from committing Zina — and she is calling him — and the reason why he is holding back from her is what?

إِنِّي أَخَافُ اللَّهَ “I am scared of Allah.”

وَرَجُلٌ تَصَدَّقَ أَخْفَاهَا — a man who gave Sadaqah and concealed it.

حَتَّى لَا تَعْلَمَ شِمَالُهُ مَا تُنْفِقُ يَمِينُهُ — so that his left hand doesn't know what his right hand is giving.

وَرَجُلٌ ذَكَرَ اللَّهَ خَالِيًا — he remembers Allah in private, no one is there, just him and Allah, privately somewhere.

فَفَاضَتْ عَيْنَاهُ — and his eyes overflowed with tears.

The point — the one I want to get from the hadith — is:

وَرَجُلٌ طَلَبَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ — a man who was called by a woman ذَاتُ مَنْصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ — this woman is beautiful, attractive, and she has status. And he said to her: إِنِّي أَخَافُ اللَّهَ — “I am scared of Allah.”

Let’s really think here — who will do that today? Who will say to a woman of beauty, of position: “I fear Allah. I can’t do anything with you. I can’t.” Even if he did do it, and he went and he told his friends, what will they say to him? The kind of people he is around — they will laugh at him.

“Are you crazy? Are you serious?”

They will make a joke out of it. They will laugh at him.

This is the reality that we live in. And this is what our youths are going through.

The Wisdom of Ibn Al-Qayyim

Ibn Al-Qayyim used to say:

الصبر على الشهوة أسهل من الصبر على ما توجبه الشهوة Being patient against desire is easier than being patient with the consequences of fulfilling that desire.

Remember this: To be patient over your desire... To withhold, to refrain from fulfilling your desires — is far easier than dealing with what comes as a result of fulfilling them.

The patience that is required for that…

A brother goes, commits Zina. For what? A few hours? A few minutes? And it’s over and done with. The consequences of what he has just done right now — the patience he has to endure — is far worse, far greater, than the patience you could have just come with by refraining and holding yourself, and keeping away from all of this.

Maybe the woman becomes pregnant. Maybe you get a sickness or an illness from it. Maybe your reputation and your name…

Maybe what happens? Because what you have just done right now — is going to be done to your family member. Your daughter. Or your sister. Or your this and that.

The Example of Prophet Yusuf

Okay? Remember the story of Prophet Yusuf. Yusuf — he is what? When it comes to being trust — he is given as an example. Wallahi, he is talking to Allah. Look at this Iffah, look how trusty Yusuf is.

He said:

رَبِّ السِّجْنُ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِمَّا يَدْعُونَنِي إِلَيْهِ “My Lord, prison is more beloved to me than that to which they invite me.”

And look what he says after that — Wallahi, if you don’t divert me from all of this, the plotting and the planning that these women are putting for me — if You don’t divert me — I’m going to fall into this, and I’m going to be from the ignorant people.

Sayyidina Yusuf — what did he give precedence to? What did he choose? He chose the suffering on this earth than the punishment of the Hereafter.

He knew he can’t do without Allah’s help. He turned towards his Lord. He said: I haven’t got the strength. If You don’t turn me away from all of this, oh my Lord, I’m going to go head in, and I’m going to be from the ignorant criminals.

When he humbled himself to Allah, and he admitted that he is in Allah’s hands — Allah accepted his du’a. Allah diverted him from their planning and their plotting.

إِنَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ Indeed, He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.

Allah is the one who hears your supplication. Allah is the one who hears your calling. He is also one who has great knowledge.

The Modern Challenges

Compare this to… There is no way to compare — to what? Our youths. They are playing on the honour of so many sisters. They don’t care — with their phones. On the internet: Facebook. Twitter. Instagram. Snapchat. And now — the mother of all Fasad has come — the new app: TikTok.

Using all of that — the Fasad — open. There it is. The sisters are on there. The boys are on there — hunting the sisters down. Speaking to this woman. And then this woman again. Cheating with this one.

All of it started from where? Where did all of this problem come from?

It came from the looking.

You are looking at the post.

The poet, he said — the beginning of all of this is what? Looking. That’s where it all started from.

And the poet, he said — the majority of the people who are going to the Hellfire are going to what? It’s the evil they belittle.

The poet, he also said — regarding this issue:

You are running after this woman, and after that moment where you have done the haram — you are not feeling the way that you felt. You feel regret now. And sadness. Emotional.

Leave these places of Fasad. If this is what it’s doing to you — remember Allah and leave. Supplicate to Allah and beg Him for forgiveness.

Anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me and Shaytan, and Allah and His Messenger are both free from it.