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Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. He is the Praiseworthy, the Good, and the Beautiful. I bear witness that there is no god but God, alone, with no partner. He says the truth and He is the Guide. I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. Peace and blessings be upon him and his family and companions, and those who follow them in good faith until the Day of Judgment.
The Fourth Advice: Al-‘Iffah
Fourth advice: Al-‘Iffah, to be just
This is the fourth advice.
And this advice, God willing, is Al-Iffah, to be chaste. Al-Iffah, my beloved brothers and sisters, is the slogan of the righteous. And the clothes of the righteous.
And the dress of the righteous. And the crown of the fearful. Al-Iffah, to be chaste, is a quality you will find in the righteous people.
It is what they adorn themselves with. It is what they clothe themselves with. It is their crown that they carry on their heads.
It is the beauty that glows from them. Chaste. They are not ones who are overcome by their desires.
They are in control of it. Ibn Al-Qayyim says, Al-Iffah, to be chaste, To have that quality of being chaste, It will take a person to stay away from the low things. To stay away from speech and actions which are despicable.
And it will push the person towards shyness. Every good that you see, it springs from shyness. And it prevents him, shyness then, from what? Zina, stinginess, lying, backbiting, tailbearing.
A caution to the youth
My young brother and my young sister, be cautious. And to stay away from the cautious of your nafs beautifying for you the honour of other people. Whether it be their honour by slandering them, name-calling them, Or fulfilling your sexual needs with them and their daughters.
Allahu Akbar.
This action of zina is a jurmun fadhi' Wa fi'lun shani'. It's an evil action a person does. And what you need to remember, That if you fulfil your sexual needs with other women, It's not long before it's done to your family members.
Stay away from zina and haram. Zina is a debt. If you give it back, It's a debt.
If you go and you give zina and you do it with another woman, The response is going to be, It's going to be taken from your family members
The story of the young boy
A young boy came to the Prophet ﷺ And this young boy said, O Messenger of Allah, allow me to commit zina. He was a youth.
Desire was burning him inside. The people saw what kind of request he put forward. They became angry with his behaviour.
And they scolded him. The Prophet then said to him, Come close. And the boy came so close to the Prophet.
The Prophet then said to him, Do you love zina for your mother? He said, No. I do not like this for my mother. The Prophet then said, And other people do not like that for their mothers.
Do you love it for your daughter? For someone to commit zina with her? He said, No, Messenger of Allah. People do not like that for their daughters. Then the Prophet said, Do you love this for your sister? And then he said, No, by Allah, I swear.
Then the Prophet said, No one loves it for their sister. Then the Prophet said, Do you like it for your maternal auntie? He said, No, by Allah, I swear. I do not like it for my auntie.
Then the Prophet said to him, People do not like it for their maternal auntie. Do you like it for your Is your paternal auntie, sorry. Your khala is your maternal auntie.
Do you love it? Now he is asking the one before was your paternal auntie. Now he is asking his maternal auntie. He said, Do you love this for your maternal auntie? He said, He said, Then look what the Prophet did.
He He rationally convinced him. Then the Prophet then said, Prophet placed his hand on the boy's chest. And then he said to him, He said, Oh Allah, forgive him for his sins.
Oh Allah, purify his heart. And oh Allah, protect his private part. The narration mentions, From that day onwards, That young boy, He was not one, He would never look at anything.
The lessons from the Hadith
So this hadith shows us, number one, Our Prophet's gentleness. How he realised what this young boy is burning inside him. The desire that is burning him.
The Prophet understood it. And the way that he dealt with him. Convinced him logically, Rationally convinced him.
It shows us in our religion, Islam is not a religion that does not allow rational convincing. As long as it doesn't go against the Qur'an and the Sunnah. And the truth of the matter is, There is never going to be a logical argument.
A real, correct, logical argument. That would go against the evidences of the Qur'an and the Sunnah. If your logical argument is going against a clear cut text.
It is an illogical absurdity. What you are uttering is not a rational argument. And that is what we are against.
Anyways, the Prophet convinced him. And not only did he convince him. But he supplicated.
He invoked Allah. Asked Allah to clear his heart. To remove this from him.
To protect his private parts for him. And he also asked Allah to forgive him for his sins.
The current state of youth
Brothers and sisters, Our youth today, The concept of Zina is Muntashir.
It's been norms. He will talk about it. He won't even hide it.
The girl will talk about it. The boy will talk about it. No one is worried about it.
إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ
Zina is normal now. If you don't commit Zina, It's when people are shocked. Oh, you are a virgin.
And they will laugh at you.
إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ
The Prophet told us, The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, سَبْعَةٌ يُظِلُّهُمُ اللَّهُ فِي ظِلِّهِ يَوْمَ لَا ظِلَّ إِلَّا ظِلُّهُ The righteous Imam. شَابٌ نَشَأْ فِي عِبَادَةِ رَبِّهِ And a man whose heart is attached to the mosque.
وَرَجُلَانِ تَحَابَّا فِي اللَّهِ اجْتَمَعَ عَلَيْهِ وَتَفَرَّقَ عَلَيْهِ
And a man whose wife asked him for a position and beauty.
فَقَالَ إِنِّي أَخَفُّ اللَّهَ رَبَّ الْعَالَمِينَ وَرَجُلٌ تَصَدَّقَ أَخْفَى حَتَّى لَا تَعْلَمُ شِمَالُهُ مَا تُوفِقُ يَمِينُ وَرَجُلٌ دَكَرَ اللَّهَ خَالِيًا فَفَاضَتْ عَيْنَاهُ
This hadith mentions to us the seven that will be given a shade the day when there is no shade. The first one, the Prophet told us, is an Imam al-'Adil, the just leader.
وَشَابٌ نَشَأَ فِي عِبَادَةِ رَبِّهِ
A youth who was nurtured and grew up in the worship of Allah.
وَرَجُلٌ أَمَان قَلْبُهُ
His heart is مُعَلَّقٌ في المسجد
It's actually connected to the masjid. It is tied to the masjid.
All the time you find him going either back from the masjid or going towards the masjid. وَرَجُلَانِ تَحَابَّ فِي اللَّهِ اجْتَمَعَ عَلَيْهِ وَتَفَرَّقَ عَلَيْهِ Two men or two women who have come together in the love of Allah and that is what brings them together and that is what they depart on.
The challenge of resisting temptation
وَرَجُلٌ أَمَان قَلَبَتْهُ مْرَأَةٌ ذَاتُ مَنصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ
A man who was called by a woman of beauty and position.
Everybody wants this woman, that type of woman. And she is beautiful. And the only reason why he withheld from committing zina with her.
And she is calling him. And the reason why he is holding back from her is what? He is holding back from her because
إِنِّي أَخَافُ اللَّهِ
I am scared of Allah.
وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَان تَصَدَّقَ أَخْفَى
A man who gave sadaqa, he concealed it.
That his left hand doesn't know what his right hand gave.
حَتَّى لَا تَعْلَمُ شِمَالُهُ مَا تُنْفِقُ يَمِينُهُ
That his left hand doesn't know what his right hand has given.
وَرَجُلٌ أَيْمَان ذَكَرَ اللَّهَ خَالِيًا
He remembers Allah private, no one is there.
It is just him and Allah, privately, somewhere.
فَفَضَتْ عَيْنَا
His eyes were just like water.
The point, the one I want to get from the hadith is وَرَجُلٌ طَلَبَتْهُ مْرَأَةٌ
A man who was called by a woman ذَاتُ مَنْصِبٍ وَجَمَالٍ
This woman is beautiful, attractive.
And she has a status.
Okay, yes. And he said to her إِنِّي أَخَفُ اللَّهِ I'm scared of Allah.
Let's really think here. Who will do that today? Who will say to a woman of beauty, position I fear Allah, I can't do anything with you. I can't.
Even if he did do it. And he went and he told his friends. What will they say to him? The kind of people he's around.
They will laugh at him. Are you crazy? Are you serious? They will make a joke out of it. They will laugh at him.
This is the reality that we live in. And this is what our youths are going through.
The wisdom of Ibn Al-Qayyim
Ibn Al-Qayyim used to say, الصبر على الشهوة أسهل من الصبر على ما توجبه الشهوة Being patient against desire is easier than being patient with the consequences of fulfilling that desire.
Remember this: To be patient over your desire... To withhold, to refrain from fulfilling your desires is far easier than dealing with what comes as a result of fulfilling them.
The patience that is required for that…
A brother goes, commits Zina. For what? A few hours? A few minutes? And it’s over and done with. The consequences of what he has just done right now. The patience he has to endure is far worse, far greater, than the patience you could have just come with by refraining and holding yourself, and keeping away from all of this.
Maybe the woman becomes pregnant. Maybe you get a sickness or an illness from it. Maybe your reputation and your name…
Maybe what happens? Because what you have just done right now is going to be done to your family member. Your daughter. Or your sister. Or your this and that.
The Example of Prophet Yusuf
This is the reality that we live in. And this is what our youths are going through. Ibn Al-Qayyim used to say
الصبر على الشهوة أَسْهَلُ مِنَ الصَّبْرِ عَلَى مَا تُوْجِبُهُ الشَّهْوَةِ
Remember this.
To be patient. عَلَى الشَّهْوَةِ Remember this part. To be patient.
And restrain yourself. To withhold. To refrain from.
Fulfilling your desires is more easier than having to deal with the outcome of fulfilling your desires. The patience that is required for that. A brother commits Zina for what? A few hours? A few minutes? And he's over and done with.
The consequences of what he's just done right now. The patience he has to endure because of it. It's far worse.
Far greater than the patience you could have just come with by refraining and holding yourself and keeping away from all of this. Maybe the woman becomes pregnant. Maybe you get a sickness or an illness from it.
Maybe your reputation and your name. Maybe what happens because what you've just done right now is going to be done to your family member. Your daughter.
Your daughter or your sister or this and that.
إِنَّا لِلَّهُ وَإِنَّا رَجَوْنَ
Remember the story of Nabila Yusuf. Yusuf, he is what?
مَضْرَبُ الْمَثَل فِي الْعِفَةِ
When it comes to being trust he's given as an example.
Allah Ta'ala says in the Quran
قَالَ رَبِّ السِّجْنُ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِمَّا يَدْعُونَنِي إِلَيْهِ
Wallahi he's talking to Allah. Look at this Iffah.
Look how trusting Yusuf is.
He says, رَبِّ مَا يَدْعُونَنِي إِلَيْهِ
And look what he says after that.
وَإِلَّا تَصْرِفَ عَنِّي كَيْدَهُنَّ أَصْبُ إِلَيْهِنَّ وَأَكُمْ مِّنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ
Wallahi if you don't divert me from all of this. The plotting and the planning that these women are putting for me.
If you don't divert me, أَصْبُ إِلَيْهِنَّ I'm going to fall into this. وَأَكُمْ مِّنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ And I'm going to be from the ignorant people. النَّبِيُّ التَّقِي Sayyiduna Yusuf What did he give precedence to? What did he choose?
فَفَضَّلَ الْأَذَى الدُّنْيَوِى عَلَى الْعَذَابِ الْأُخْرَوِى
He chose the suffering on this earth than the punishment of the Hereafter.
He knew he can't do without Allah's help.
تَبَرَّأَ مِنْ حَوْلِهِ وَقُوَّتِهِ وَالْتَجَأَ إِلَىٰ رَبِّهِ
He turned towards his Lord. He said, I haven't got the strength.
وَإِلَّا تَصْرِفْ عَنِّي كَيْدَهُنَّ أَصْبُ إِلَيْهِنَّ وَأَكُمْ مِّنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ
If you don't turn me away from all of this, O my Lord, I'm going to go head in. And I'm going to be from the ignorant criminals. When he humbled himself to Allah and he admitted that he's in Allah's hands, فَاسْتَجَابَ لَهُ رَبُّهُ Allah accepted his dua.
فَصَرَفَ عَنْهُ كَيْدَهُنَّ
Allah diverted him from their planning and their plotting.
إِنَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ
Allah is the one who hears your supplication. Allah is the one who hears your calling.
He is also one who has great knowledge.
The Modern Challenges
He is also one who has great knowledge. Compare this to, there is no way to compare.
To what? إِخْوَالُنَا الشَّبَابِ Our youths.
يَعْبَثُونَ بِأَعْرَاضِ النِّسَاءِ
They're playing on the honour of so many sisters.
وَلَا يُبَالُونَ لَيْلًا وَنَهَارًا
They don't care. With their phones.
On the internet. Facebook. Twitter.
Instagram. Snapchat. And now, the mother of all fasaad has come.
The new app, Tik Tok. Using all of that. The fasaad.
Open على مسرعيه There it is. Sisters are on there. The boys are on there hunting the sisters down.
Speaking to this woman and then this woman again. And then cheating with this one. All of it started from where? Where did all of this problem come from? It came from the looking.
You're looking at the post. The poet he said
كُلُّ الحَوَادِثِ مَبِدَاهَا مِنَ النَّظَرِ وَمُعْظَمُ النَّارِ مِن مُسْتَصْغِرِ الشَّرَرِ
The beginning of all of this is what?
من النَّظَرِ
Looking.
That's where it all started from.
And the poet he said وَمُعْظَمُ النَّارِ And the majority of the people who are going to the hellfire are going to what?
من مُسْتَصْغَرِ الشَّرَرِ
It's the evil they belittle. The poet he also said regarding this issue.
He said يَصْرَعْنَ ذَلُّبِّ حَتَّى لَا حِرَاكَ بِهِ وَهُنَّ أَضْعَافُ خَلْقِ اللَّهِ إِنسَانًا
He's running after this woman.
And after that moment where you've done the haram you're not feeling the way that you felt. You feel regret now. And sadness.
Emotional. تَقِ اللَّهِ Leave these places of fasad. If this is what it's doing to you.
Remember Allah Ta'ala and leave. Supplicate to Allah Ta'ala and beg Him for forgiveness. Anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me and Shaitaan.
Allah and His Messenger are both free from it.
سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ بِحَمْدِ أَشْهَدُ أَن لَا إِلَهَ إِلَى اللَّهِ أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ
