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I say in the Qur'an what its verses have come with, for it is the Generous One who is sent down. And I say, Allah said, Glory be to Him, and the Chosen One is the Guide, and I do not doubt. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
To Him is all praise, all good, and all praise is beautiful. And I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, alone, with no partner. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him and his family and companions, and that they will follow him in good faith until the Day of Judgment.
The Reasons for Low Aspiration
We are now going to go into the reasons that cause low aspiration. There are many factors that cause low aspiration. تحول بين الفرد أو الجماعة وبين الترقي في مراتب الكمال ومدارج الفضيلة And it varies between individuals, society, communities, congregations, groups, and the level in which this reason impacts.
The impact that this reason may have on high aspiration, they vary. Some of them have a very strong impact on having high aspiration, some of these reasons. And some of them don't have that big of an impact on a person's high aspiration, but it still affects your high aspiration.
So the reasons are a lot. There are 30 reasons, I don't know if I'll be able to go through all 30 of them. And the truth of the matter is أن هناك تداخل بين أسباب دنو الهمة ومظاهره Also, there is a strong relationship between high aspiration and the ways and forms in which low aspiration manifests that we spoke about previously.
The مظاهر دنو الهمة, ways in which low aspiration manifests, some of them are found in the أسباب دنو الهمة, reasons for low aspirations. You might find it in there, like for example قلة الحياة, having very little shyness. That is a مظهر من مظاهر الدنو الهمة, it's a way and a form in which low aspiration manifests.
And it's also أسباب الدنو الهمة, a reason for low aspiration. So there is going to be تداخل. And because of the series being quite long now, I'm going to try to cut down on the ones that there are similarities between the أسباب الدنو الهمة and the مظاهر الدنو الهمة.
But I will only mention that which is only the أسباب الدنو الهمة, that which time allows بإذن الله الكريم. Let's start with the first بإذن الله الكريم, first سبب, first reason من أسباب الدنو الهمة for low aspiration. And that is ربيعة الإنسان, the person's nature.
The Nature of an Individual
There are some people من جبل على دنو الهمة. They are naturally people who have low aspiration. Naturally that's the way they are.
And they prefer الإخلاد إلى الأرض. They prefer to be stuck on the earth. They prefer not to raise up into this earth.
They become something or they earn something and accomplish something. That's not them. They love الإخلاد إلى الأرض والميل إلى الراحة والدعاء.
And they naturally like relaxation, comfort. They love it. والكلف بالصغائر ومحقرات الأمور.
And they like the little things and the dismissed and insignificant things. They love those things. Those are the type of things that you would find them going around and trying to achieve.
Those people فلا يسعى في تطلاب الكمال. They won't strive and exert the efforts in completing themselves. And they don't ولا يأخذ بالأسباب التي تعليم الهمته.
And those type of people, they won't come with the reasons that we're going to mention in this series. That will help them and aid them in being able to come with high aspiration. If they understand these reasons that being low aspiration, they will understand the opposite.
They don't try to come with those reasons. This person lives a life of The person will live their entire life in one place. Still in that routine.
The person will not take any step forward. ولا يرقى في سلب المجد درجة. And the person will not climb up to the levels of honor and virtue.
But ربما, rather sometimes what might happen is Rather what might even happen sometimes is that the person, he goes actually backwards and he drives in reverse. There are people whose nature is like that. And that is one of the greatest factors that brings about low aspiration.
It is one of the greatest reasons for low aspiration. طبيعة الإنسان Even when you talk to those type of people and you have a conversation with them and a dialogue with them, and you speak to them heart to heart, you'll always find them choosing They are choosing to stick on this earth. They are choosing the insignificant things.
When they know and they have the ability to go forward.
The Role of Nurturing at Home
The second reason that brings about low aspiration or even can bring out the opposite, which is high aspiration is The way that the nurturing at home takes place. المنزلية لها دور عظيم في توجيه الأولاد سلبا أو إيجابا The تربية at home has a great effect on the child.
Whether he goes in the right direction or in the wrong direction. The house is what؟ المدرسة الأولى للولد البيت هو المدرسة الأولى للأولاد The first school that we all went to was home. In essence, all of us were homeschooled.
The child that you have or the child you're going to have. You need to understand that the first place they learn what is right from what is wrong is home. And if what you teach him is right.
Then blessed is that child going to be. And if not. You have now directed the new generation.
To the wrong direction. Some of the great scholars of Islam used to say. That the تربية of the child is not just the rights that the child has on the parents.
But it's the rights that the community and the society have on that parent. That they nurture their children correctly. The society's right on you is that you cultivate and you nurture your child correctly.
Why? Because this child is going to be released into the society. So if he contributes good. The community will benefit from it.
And if he becomes a harm and a problem to the society. He steals from the society. He robs the society.
Kills the society. Members of the society. Or the community.
That is something. Or rights that the community have on you. That your child that you're nurturing.
You need to remember it's not just the right that the child has on you. It's the rights that the people around you have on you. The child before he goes to school.
Before he meets the people around. The people out there. Before he meets the community.
Before he meets them. You as a parent have to at home nurture that child properly. Low aspiration or high aspiration comes from the child.
Or the parent nurturing that into the child. And drilling that into the child. Lifting the child's aspiration.
Educating him. Cultivating and nurturing him.
Three Aspects of Nurturing
I've said this before and I will say it again. Your child divide his life into three. If you want to succeed. Divide your child's life into three.
The first one is you write down the word body. The physical body. The second one is the mind.
And the third one is the spirit. These three are the three that you need to nurture every single day for the child. Many people's understanding of Tarbiyatul Awlaad.
They understood it as just physically. The body you nurture. That's it.
My child's body. Look at him. MashaAllah Barik.
You've gained weight. Even when you see a child's born. And the parent gives birth to the child.
The doctor says to the parent when the child is five weeks old, for example. Bring the child to the hospital. We need to weigh him to see if he's gaining weight.
And the parent from that moment is focused on the physical side of the child. If the child's losing weight, the parent becomes worried. They take the child to the hospital.
And they should do. Without a doubt. That is important.
But that's all they understood from the concept of Tarbiyatul Awlaad. The physical side. And that is a deficiency to just think that the Tarbiyatul Awlaad only is the body.
What about the other two? Which is the mind. The child's mind needs nurturing. Parents should sit down with their children and have conversations and dialogues with their children.
That plays a big role in the child's aspiration in life. What he wants to become. And how he wants to live his life.
Mind. Nurturing the child's mind. There are many ways to do that.
Inshallah Ta'ala. You can listen to Inshallah Ta'ala. The series that was done by Sheikh Mohammed Ibn Hanbu on the Muslim family.
He has spoken about all of those in great details. And the third thing that the parent needs to focus on is the spiritual side of the child. The child's spirit.
The child's spiritual here means his deen. His taqafah Islamiyah. His religious ethics.
This is where the child learns the Qur'an. He memorizes the ahadith. The child is also taught about how to go to the toilet and do his call of nature.
If you go to many of the madaris where the Qur'an is taught. And you look at the children who are learning the Qur'an. You see a child who is hafidh or he is half way in the Qur'an.
He has memorized a lot. And you see the child urinating standing up. Or he doesn't clean himself when he urinates.
He doesn't wash his private part. Or he comes out without washing his hand. Or he leaves the door open while he is doing his call of nature.
There is no shyness. This all is a reflection of the tarbiyah at home. Or the child interrupts elderly people speaking.
Or two elderly people were sitting down talking. A child would just walk in between them. Not around them but in between them.
Or he would sit down and listen to two people privately speaking. The child puts his head forward. And he wants to see or listen to what two people are talking about.
From that age it is upon the parent to spiritually nurture the child. To also nurture the child's mind. Wallahi you find many people who are physically bigger.
InshaAllah ta'ala we are going to touch on that soon. They are physically grown. Physically big.
If you look at them, Allahumma barik. Their bodies, their physique, the way they look is big. But you talk to them, their minds.
It's like a child's mind. What happened? What's the problem here? The problem here is that there was no relation. You see when you nurture the child's body and it goes up.
Then you should also nurture the mind so it goes with it. And then you nurture the spiritual side so it goes with it. So all three of them are balanced.
How can you do that if you have a chart in your house? On the fridge. You write down body, mind, soul. Body, mind, spirit.
Or soul. Those three. And you focus on those three.
Every day you tick off something that you've done for your child's physical side. He's done an activity. The eating that he eats that he doesn't have junk.
He doesn't drink fizzy drinks. He eats healthy. You tick that off.
It's important. And then you go to the mind. What book has he read today? One of the things that I encourage is to get things to do with investigation.
You tell a story to your child. And when you tell the child a story, you don't finish off the ending of the story. You tell them a story of somebody that did something.
They did something. A crime was committed. And once you tell them the story of the crime, you say to them, I want each and every one of you to tell me the ending of the story.
How does the story end? And I want you to explain it to me. Who committed the crime? Who stole the cookie from the cookie jar? So you mention the story and then you ask them that question. After you've placed the whole entire storyline to them.
It's nurturing their minds. You want them to think. So then you say, hey, who do you think did it? The child thinks.
He contemplates over it. He explains his reasons. And then you discuss his reasons with him.
Do you think that reason makes sense? Okay, why do you think it doesn't make sense? Hey, the next child, what do you think? The next child, what do you think? This is nurturing the child's mind. That's just an example for you. Just one example.
But there are many other ways you can do that. It doesn't just have to be in that particular way. There are many other ways you can do it.
Brothers and sisters, you've got a child. Every night before he goes to sleep, he has to read a page of something. Put right next to your child's bed.
قصص القرآن. For example, the stories that are mentioned in the Qur'an. أصحاب الكهف، قصة لغمان وما إلى ذلك.
Or قصص الأنبياء. Or the stories that were mentioned by the Prophet ﷺ. They have books. And if your children can read the Arabic language.
Allahu Akbar. Very good. So you give them those books.
Whether it be in English or Arabic, you give it to them and you tell them to read it. A page. And the next morning when they wake up, after they do their du'a when they wake up, and they do their du'a, أذكر الصباح والمساء.
And it's a must. The child sits down and he does his أذكر الصباح والمساء. And then you discuss with him the story that you read.
How is it like? What did you benefit from it? And after the end of the month, that storybook they finished, you give them a gift for finishing the story. And you ask questions about it. You ask them questions about it.
That's also nurturing the child's mind. Also the deen. How you strengthen the child's religion.
These are تربية المنزلية. The child's first school is home. The parents need to understand that.
And that's their responsibility. كما أن والديه مسؤولان إلى حد كبير عن انحرافه وفساده. Many of the children's destruction and deviation, it goes back to the parents.
العلمة ابن القيمة رحمه الله said وكم ممن أشقى ولده. How many people destroyed their children. وفلد تكبده في الدنيا والآخرة.
They forsake their children, their loved ones, their children, the human being you brought into this world. That is a part of you. You destroyed him.
By doing what? بإهماله. Forsaking him. وترك تأديبه.
You didn't discipline the child. Especially those three that I mentioned. You have to make sure that the child is eating healthy.
That does affect the child's brain and his thinking process. If your child is not eating healthy, it does affect his deen and his religion. اي نعم.
It does. You make sure your child doesn't overeat and he doesn't undereat. You make sure you give your children natural things.
Things that are mentioned to be good by the Prophet ﷺ. Like honey, black seed, oil. Things like dates. If you have dates from Medina, eat good.
If you can get them, give it to them. These are things that are beneficial for the child. The food that you give them.
Don't give them things that are not healthy for the child. وترك تأديبه. Disciplining the child.
His mind, his soul. وَيَعَانَتِي عَلَى شَهُوَاتِهِ You forsake the child disciplining him. You also forsake the child in helping him how to control his desires.
I always say this and inshallah I'm going to repeat it again. The child's life, you divide it into three. The first ten years of the child's life, it's your responsibility to tell him what to do and what not to do.
And the child doesn't have much to say in that situation. He just hears and he obeys what his parents tell him to do. So the first ten years, the parents are setting the child guidelines.
Do this and don't do this. The next, the second ten years, the parent and the child have partnership. Whereas the parent explains things to the child and he wants to hear what the child has to say.
Their discussion goes on and a dialogue. The last, the third ten years, the third ten years, the parent does not enforce or impose his views onto the child or onto this young adult. He doesn't.
He lets him do it. And he's a naseh, a sincere advisor. He might come up to him and say, I saw this, my advice on you to you in this issue is this, this, this.
Khalas. If you take those steps, you won't start to do what you used to do. Or you miss doing, sorry.
Some people, they miss out. Telling the child what not to do. They don't do anything.
They forsake their children. They turn a blind eye. When the child reaches 20 or 18, the parent wakes up and realizes, my child's going the wrong direction.
And then they start to do what they should have done when the child was nine or eight or seven or six years old. That's, can't do that. It doesn't work like that anymore.
Right now, he's in that age of partnership. You need to tell him why you say, why you want him to do this. So if you've taken those first 10 years well, and you've done it correctly, the second 10 years of the child's life, the partnership will seem to work in your advantage as a parent.
Your advantage, of course, is what is beneficial for the child. So he will always generally be in line with you because that's how you nurtured him from the beginning. And when he becomes 20 plus, he's working in that direction.
He's working towards the milestones that you have set for the child. And you will not have then forsaken the child. When he's 15 onwards, desires start to creep in.
The child has shahwa now. He's starting to look at the opposite gender. So what do you as a parent do in a situation? You aid the child in the way he needs to control his desires.
Ibn Al-Qayyim is saying that. Some people, they abandon and they forsake how to tell the child to control his desires. And remember, if you worked hard in the first 10 years, and you also worked hard in the second 10 years, the third 10 years, it will work in your advantage as a parent.
Your daughter will be very shy. Your son will also be very shy. And both of them would work in the path that you've set for them.
Many parents, he's saying, Ibn Al-Qayyim, they claim that they are honoring their children, but they are humiliating their children. And they claim that they are having mercy on their child, but what they're really doing is they are oppressing the child. And then he said, فَفَاتَتْهُ إِنْتِفَاعُهُ بِوَلَدِهِ Then the person has really lost benefiting from their child.
وَفَوَّتَ عَلَيْهِ حَظَّهُ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ And made the child lose his portion in this dunya and in the hereafter, and also did the same to himself. He has made himself lose his dunya and akhira because of what he's done to his child.
The Impact of Parental Absence
وَإِذَا أَعْتَبَرْتَ الْفَسَادَ فِي الْأَوْلَادِ This word, I think everyone should memorize it and learn it and always keep it in their minds.
Ibn Al-Qayyim summarized the Tarbiyyat al-Awlaad in one sentence. He said, وَإِذَا أَعْتَبَرْتَ الْفَسَادَ فِي الْأَوْلَادِ He said, if you think about the corruption that you see in children رَأَيْتَ يُوَفَعِنْ أَنَّ عَمَتَهُ مِنْ قِبَلِ الْآبَاءِ The majority of them have actually come from the parents.
And I'm going to be direct and honest. The overwhelming majority and blame is actually on the father figures. It's actually not the mothers. The overwhelming majority of children who went the wrong direction you would actually find the effects and the problem have actually come from the father.
The reason why I say that is because many fathers are deliberately absent from their children and they don't want anything to do with their children. And that plays a role in what the child becomes. Good or bad.
It affects the child. The majority of the children in the situation in that situation where their father is absent the majority of them, they go in the wrong direction.
I remember many years back reading an article on the relationship between prostitution of girls and boys you know, playing around with girls and committing zina as well the relationship between those two and the absence of a father.
They said that many girls who go towards prostitution are going there because they are looking for love acceptance, appreciation from the male figure. And the reason for that is because of the absence of her father. Allahu Akbar It's ajeeb right? This clearly shows us that the importance of the father being around.
And I remember subhanAllah many years back there was an event that I did in the UK and the event was to get the youngsters, the youths especially in the Somali community Somali youths and the Somali parents so we did an event where we called onto the Somali parents and the Somali youths and we sat down to talk to the parents.
The parents were told the idea was to tell the parents what the youths in this country and the youngsters are now thinking and for the youths and the parents to have a conversation and talk about where things are going wrong. And it happened in North West London.
What really hurt me and made me realise deeply the problem in the community is the absence of the father. That day there was not one father who came and sat down. Imagine that.
It was only mothers that were sitting there who were concerned about their children who were concerned about the problem of their kids and we know what's taking place in the UK. The stabbing and the killing and the murdering and the bloodshed that's taking place. We all know what's happening.
We're aware of that. How is it possible that a father does not come to get a solution for his son or a solution for his daughter? It makes no sense.
Conclusion
So your child's aspiration in life and what he wants to become it's made at home. As they say, it's made in the kitchen. It's made in the living room. It's made in the four walls of your house.
That's where the child becomes. One who has high aspiration or one who doesn't have it. That is why your child is choosing low aspiration to imitate and mimic and impersonate rappers, musicians, TV presenters.
That's why he's chosen that. And he hasn't lifted his head up to realize these people who are rappers, singers are truly despicable irrelevant people who have no value other than making money from people by singing filthy things. Your child looks up to that.
A Muslim, his name is Muhammad Ahmed, Khalid, Zaid, Bakar that's their names and they're imitating a non-Muslim rapper who has no value other than what he's doing right now. That's all he's loved for or he's liked for by those who like him. But if you look at him as a person he is an alcoholic, drug addict and your child is looking up to that type of person.
Where did that low aspiration come from? Your name is Muhammad and you're following a non-Muslim despicable, filthy individual. Your child is following that. How is that possible? How did my child's low aspiration become that low? The reason for that is the parents.
Many parents are nurturing their children upon what? على الجبن والخوف والهلع والفزع فيخوفه بالغول والعفريات لأكفو عن أبتهم Many parents, their disciplining of their children is very very bad. So they place in their children fear fear-mongering that's what they do to their children.
So they place fear in their children's hearts. They scare them with stories that they make up and every community has those stories. In the Arab world, there's something they call Ghul. It's a type of Shayban.
Somalis have those type of stories that you scare children with and the child gets scared of the dark. Your child's scared of the ifriyat. You're telling him to be scared of the jinns.
And then later and all of that, why are you doing it? لأكفو عن أبتهم You want the child to stop playing around and being a child. But really what you've just done right now is you've made your child have characteristics as fear and scared and terrified in life.
You've now made your child scared. Then tomorrow when he grows up, you want to teach him فَلَا تَخَافُوهُمْ وَخَافُونَهِمْ كُنتُمْ مُؤْمِنِينَ Don't fear these things. Fear Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. It doesn't work like that.
It doesn't work like that. So what you're doing at the beginning the seed you're planting, remember it's growing. That seed, that flower, that plant is growing and it enters many places.
Why do you think your child is scared to go outside? Why is your child at home? He doesn't want to leave. Why is your child not going for interviews and jobs? Because he's scared of being turned down. Why are many children suffering from depression and anxieties? Why? Because the parent has put fear into the child.
The parent has put into the child these qualities. Especially a lot of the parents who are scaring their children with people that they should make their children love such as the doctor or the teacher or your father. That's the biggest, that's the one that the mothers do.
Your father. So the child, instead of loving his father and appreciating his father, he fears his father. Or he fears the teacher who he should have taken as a close friend and benefited from.
The doctor who's going to help the child's health you make him fear the people he should have loved and appreciated and want to be like them. You see what you're doing here? This is the problem.
And from there comes what? وَمِنْ هُنَا And from here يَنْشَأُ What comes from it is الْوَلَدُ The child becomes جَبَانًا رِعْدِيدًا يَفْرُقُ مِنْ ظِلِّهِ He becomes scared, terrified that the child even runs away from his own shadow.
And he starts to fear وَيَخَافُ مِمَّا لَا يُخَافُ مِنْهُ He starts to become scared of those you should not be scared of. So many parents, what they do is they nurture their children upon عَلَى الْمُيُوعَةِ وَالْتَرَفِ They nurture their children upon this laziness Daddy, how are you? Kind of رُجُولة Strong, be strong, stand straight. Don't stand sideways, stand straight.
When you talk to me, look at me, don't look around. These qualities, they don't nurture their children. They nurture their children upon الْمُيُوعَةِ وَالْتَرَفِ وَالْبَذْخِ وَالْطَيْشِ They nurture their children upon these qualities.
فَيَنْشَأُ الْوَلَدُ مُتَرَفًا مُنَعْمًا The child grows up with all of the blessings Dad, I want this. Okay, here. Dad, I want this.
Give me this. He gives it to him. He doesn't ask him.
I'll give you what you want but I need something in return. And what do you want? I need you to do this, this, and I'll give this to you. Why? That's very good.
The child will learn that in this world that he lives in nothing comes free. It's about working for things. It's about achieving and gaining things.
Nothing comes for free. The child will learn that. If you don't do that and you give him everything when he goes into society he's expecting everyone to give him what he wants.
And if he doesn't get what he wants because that's what he's used to he will kick off a fuss. And he will not be able to live with the community and the society.
And very important Wallahi, these things that we do as parents it affects the child's life later. It affects everything about him. A lot of the parents, they nurture their children on giving the child whatever he asks for and doing what the child wants.
And the child becomes selfish. همه خاصة نفسه فحسب The child only becomes concerned about himself. I won. فلا يهتم بالآخرين He doesn't care about other people.
ولا يسأل عن إخوانه المسلمين The child grows up not asking about his Muslim brothers. فلا يشارك أفراحهم The child grows up not wanting to know the happiness of other people. He doesn't make him, he wants it for himself.
كل شيء له ولا يشاطرهم And he wouldn't participate in their good times and their moments. The child becomes like that. فهذه التربية مما يفسد المرءة It destroys the child's dignity.
ويقتل الاستقامة It kills the child's steadfastness. ويقضي على شهامة والشجاعة It takes away from the child's courage and bravery.
How many parents do we know who don't nurture their children upon what? على معالي الأمور High aspirations.
وإنما يربيهم But rather what they nurture their children is upon what? كما تربى The way that you nurture an animal or a pet that they have at home. That's it. They don't set a high goal for the child.
فلا أهم له من أولادي إلا مطعمهم وملبسهم All that he thinks of his child's تربية is food. What is my child going to drink? What is my child going to eat? That's it. أما بعد ذلك فلا يخطر له ببال The parent doesn't have any of that in his mind for his child.
And from this what comes out is a child who's what? ومن هنا ينشأ الولد بليدا ساقط الهمة قليلا المروعة You are now going to have a child who's dimwitted. A child who has low aspiration. A child who has no morality or dignity.
From here You are now raising your own enemy in your own household. Many people are ومن الناس من هو بعكس مع ماما Some people are opposite to what we mentioned. What do they do to their children? They are very harsh on their children.
تجدوا يشتدوا على أولادي They are very harsh to their children. Cruel to their children. ويقصوا عليه أكثر من اللازم They show strictness to their children more than they should do.
فيضربهم ضربا مبرحا You see them hitting the child. فيضربهم ضربا مبرحا They hit the child a beating that wounds the child, has marks on the child. For what لكن؟ عند أدنى خطأ For the most basic things he's beating his child up for it.
ويبالغ في تعنيفهم And he goes overboard in disciplining the child. عند كل صغيرة وكبيرة He does that for everything whether it's small or it's little. He will beat his child up for everything.
That's what you find many. ومنهم from amongst the people is من يحزأ بأولادي ولا يرى أنهم أهل لشيء من المكرمات And this is the saddest one. You find some parents they are belittling their children.
When they see their child working hard and achieving something they never ever show their child that they appreciate their child's hard work. I remember once upon a time when I was very little I felt that I wanted to please my parents.
And there was a digital radio and I wanted to clean it. I wanted to make my parents very happy. So what I did was I took a bucket of water and I poured it over the radio and it exploded. My aim was to take the water to put it on there and then to clean it.
But what happened? The water and electricity exploded. One of the things that touched me was when my mother found out. She scolded me and I told her my reason.
I said, Mom, I wasn't just pouring water into it. I wasn't pouring water over it. My reason was that I wanted to clean it for you, Mom.
So parents need to understand that. That the maqsal of the child was very good. That you appreciate it.
You thank the child for it. You say, no problem. You did a mistake.
Now you learn. Electricity and water don't come together. But your intentions were very good and I appreciate that.
If you stop your child from that you tell him off and you rebuke him for that he will never come forward to try something for you. He won't. Show appreciation to your children.
Even if it's something small. Make it look that you appreciate it. That you see it.
Your child comes and draws a picture for you. Appreciate the picture. Tell them how much it means to you.
And what they drew. Appreciate that. All of that is... If your child tells you he memorized something show them that you love it and you're happy with it.
This is something important. There are some people لا يبقوا بمحادثة أولادي They don't have no conversation with their children. ولا يلقي بالا لتعليمهم أداب الحديث وطرائقه They don't want to have any dialogue with their children.
Especially if you look at the elderly Somalian parents they feel degraded if they're told to talk to their children. They feel degraded. He's a little kid.
I don't sit with little kids. That's what he says. But remember today he's young and you choose not to talk to him.
When he becomes big and he becomes older remember this can affect you as a parent. The way you abandoned him when he was young and you chose not to speak to him. It will most likely affect you when you grow older and you want to just talk to him.
And he's like, you're too old for me. I can't talk to you. Remember Your child conversation, have it with him.
Give him that time. Laugh with him. Have that heart-to-heart conversation with him.
These are qualities that, brothers and sisters, affects the child's Tarbiyah. And when it affects the child's Tarbiyah your child is going to have high aspiration in life. Will work hard and be determined.
He will be conscientious. He will have resilience. He will have forbearance and patience and certainty in what he does.
He will have courage and bravery. These are qualities that you will see in your child. You are the first teacher of your children.
Think about what you're teaching them. I'm going to stop there, Inshallah Ta'ala. Anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me and Shaitaan.
And Allah and his Messenger are both free from it. Subhanaka Allahumma bihamdihi ashhadu an la ilaha illallah astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaih
